It Takes a Village

I keep thinking about what my dad shared with me during their latest visit to us. He was teasing that in the good old days a baby was breast fed by the nursing mom and nursing aunts… sort of like a round robin during mealtime. Yikes! Sounds like a family comedy gone wild in my opinion. But, I can appreciate the metaphor. A friend of mine had this saying at the end of her dissertation presentation. It takes a village to raise a child. It looks like the saying is said to be either African or Native American in origin and has been popularized by Hilary Clinton as well.

My understanding is that the first village a child grows up in is his own family. Growing up I had the privilege of having my grandparents live with us. I can still remember the stories my grandpa used to tell us kids. That’s probably where I learned to love strange tales. As for my grandma, I still remember how she used to wear her hair. I remember her jewelry box which was like a treasure chest for me. Their values definitely passed on to us through osmosis and a couple of times through direct instruction whenever my siblings and I were a little bit more than naughty.

Nowadays, like many families, we live far from extended family. But we have made a village of our own with other families similar to us. Some of us, moms, even meet up once a month to share parenting tips with one another. In one of our get-togethers, we talked about how important it is that husband and wife were consistent with the values we share with our kids. Our conversation extended to how important it is for our kids to be surrounded by other adults who shared the same values. I’m definitely proud of the little village we are creating for our kids.  

There’s another village which we don’t often think about it. In our Catholic faith, we believe in the Communion of Saints. Here is our spiritual family - the saints, the souls of the faithful departed, and our brothers and sisters in the faith. Our children should know about this family as well. They can learn from the good example of the lives of the saints. Maybe they can celebrate the feast day of the saint they are named after. Also, when we teach our children to pray for our loved ones who have gone before us, we are teaching them to respect their memory and to practice a special kind of charity. Lastly, we teach our children to love others because they are God’s children first and foremost.

Does your child/children have other adults (role models) in their lives who share the same values you have?

Is the Communion of Saints something you treasure in your family?